All relationships, whether platonic or romantic, have high and low moments. How low do YOU go when you are experience those low moments? Do you ever hit “below the belt” with your words?
My husband and I have had our fair share of disagreements since knowing one another (while dating and during the course of our marriage). One thing I cannot say is that I have always argued fairly. In the beginning of our marriage I said whatever came to mind, often passionately and without thinking. However, I learned quickly that doing so provided no true resolve and, although he would never verbally admit it to me, would hurt my husband’s feelings. During those moments I definitely did not deserve to wear a Good Wife medal.
Whatever you do, whether in speech or action, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus and give thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:17 CEB
I recently read an article on BlackandMarriedwithKids.com that listed 7 Things to Never Ever Say to During an Argument With Your Spouse. The author made some excellent points and helped me to examine myself and the way that I handle disagreements and arguments with my husband. These days, arguments are not as often because I am trying my best to allow the Holy Spirit to take control of my every thought and action. Unfortunately, I sometimes allow my flesh to win and I try to engage in petty arguments. After such arguments, I always feel completely awful and heartbroken, which is even more reason why arguing or disagreeing with your mate should be done in a peaceful manner–being angry, but sinning not–coming to a resolution every time.
To see if you argue fairly, check out the BlackandMarriedwithKids.com article here!
How do you diffuse arguments or disagreements with your mate? Share them below!